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Jesus I Love You

pdiddy From my friend, P:

I spent the majority of Sunday afternoon recording/producing my buddy’s comedy music. He does improv and whatnot, but due to future career concerns, he doesn’t necessarily want his real name associated with some of the potentially-offensive stuff. Thus, I bring you the break-out track from MC Labia, produced by me:

MC Labia: Jesus I Love You

Paul wrote a song for me once, but I can’t share it here because it includes some names that don’t necessarily want the information that’s included about them in the song on this interweb. Paul is a great singer, though. Just in general. One of my favorite songs of his is “Metaphor”. You can see more of Paul’s stuff by going here. I really like his cover of Weezer’s “Butterfly”. [quicktime movie]

Anyway, enjoy Paul!

Trillian Pro

If you use Trillian Pro can you email me and let me know if it’s worth buying? Or … uh … help me out?

flux-rad @ gmail.com

Feeling

One of the saddest moments during each day as a mother comes when my son comes to ask for something he knows he can’t have. It’s always the same little shuffle over to me, and he stays back, five feet or so, preparing himself. Finally, he’ll walk over close enough to put a hand on my knee or arm, look up at me with those little baby eyes and slowly utter whatever it is he wants — one or two words — as an interrogative.

“Juice?”
“Movie?”
“Ice Cream?”
“Snack?”
“Outside?”

Sometimes it’s just not the right time for what he wants, sometimes the answer is no. But he knows that already, and he asks slowly and with a quiet persistence that wears me down before I’ve even had a chance to build up my resolve. I feel bad before I even shake my head. I don’t want to say no, because I am already anticipating the sad wave of disappointment that is about to cloud my child’s face. I’m moments away from watching him cloud over and lower his head, seconds away from doubting myself and wondering if I’m being unfair, right on the cusp of being the one responsible for that look.

I say no, though. I don’t always give in, though I know that sometimes I can’t hack it. I let him stay up and eat a bowl of ice cream with me because I want him to have those kinds of memories. I want him to have memories of being up with mom when he shouldn’t have been, laughing and enjoying time together. Besides, there are those days when it feels like all I do is say no, and I break it up just for my own sanity. But when I stick with it, and refuse him after one of these requests, I always feel bad. Not just because I’ve said no and I feel guilty, but because these sorts of requests aren’t followed by a tantrum or a fit - the aftermath is devastating because it’s as if I’ve really let him down.

Michael thinks he’s manipulating me. Don’t worry — I know that three year olds are perfectly capable of doing such a thing, but I’m a softy. I’m the softy. It’s ridiculously hard to be without Mike right now because I’m terrible at being the mean one. Just last night, I said no to ice cream. He lowered his head, I could see tears welling up in his eyes. He was holding his bunny and he sort of hugged it as he started to turn around. He looked up at me again and sort of pauses, like he’s waiting to see if I’ve changed my mind, or if I’m still there. I might have to shake my head again, or (more often) try to explain the situation again, why I’m saying no. It never makes a difference.

He turns and usually goes into his room. Last night, after ice cream was ruled out, he walked into his room and climbed in bed. He was totally exhausted, too tired to really cry or whine about it. I didn’t follow him because I was hoping he’d go to sleep. After a few minutes I went in to check. He was sound asleep on top of the covers with Bunny. I walked over to tuck him in and could see a tear stain on his cheek. He fell asleep crying so quietly I couldn’t hear him.

If you have kids, you’re groaning right about now, because no doubt your kid has (intentionally or no) made you feel this way before. I felt terrible. Awful. Horrible. And I know that if Mike was here we would have talked about it and felt bad but realized he has to learn to live with disappointment, and just because he’s cute that doesn’t mean he can have ice cream at 10 pm. Intellectually, I know that I did the right thing, or the closest thing to it, but emotionally, I feel like a bad mother. I made him cry. Over ice cream. He fell asleep sad and alone in his room, crying, because of me. Because I wouldn’t let him have ice cream.

So you know what? He had ice cream for breakfast.

blogmarks for 2006-02-28

Hello, today I looked at:

  • Home | Songbirdnest.com
    Songbird is a Web player built from Firefox’s browser engine. Songbird is open source, will run on Windows, Mac OS X and Linux and supports user contributed, cross-platform extensions
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  • Palms Out Sounds
    the indy brooklyn label’s official music blog
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  • Low End Theory » Myspace Div Overlay Code [Whitespace]
    Kristin’s whitespace DIV overlay for MySpace. Excellent.
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  • Welcome To Tampon Crafts
    Your period comes every month, but Xmas comes only once a year. So bring that menstrual joy to this holiday season with these tampon tree decorations. From a string of tampon lights to a star at the top of the tree, feminine hygiene has never been so festive!
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  • :::ART FOR MUSIC’S SAKE:::
    Hip hop meets acoustic as Jose Gonzalez’s <i>Veneer</i> gets reworked and blended with verses from some of today’s most elite underground and mainstream emcees.
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  • Untitled Document
    Hilarious gifs featuring celebrities - you will laugh.
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  • Loretta Lux
    Amazing work. Just amazing.
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  • iSuckMP3Blogs - Simple WGet GUI (for Mac)
    iSuckMP3Blogs is a hastily-named Application (Written in Applescript Studio) that uses Jeff Veen’s intelligently constructed wget command to suck down only the new MP3’s from your favorite blogs. The mp3s all end up in a folder called ‘SuckedMP3s’ on your desktop.
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  • MC Hammer: Art Of The Dance
    One "goes dumb" because he can escape the reality of feeling abandoned and left out from a society that isn’t addressing his pain and frustration. The lack of hope, opportunity and employment eats at a man’s conscience and psyche like maggots on the dead. My value and contribution to family and community is found in my ability to provide for my family and support the community with resources. I escape the pressures of this reality momentarily in my dance. In the dance I let go and I’m free.
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Awesome!

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Freebie List

Who could forget Monica, Ross and the gang sitting at Central Perk, exchanging witty banter on the subject of the infamous Freebie List? Mb didn’t either. And being the hanger-on that I am, I’m joining in, having taken her very general “tag, you’re it” as a personal challenge to create the most awesome Freebie List ever.

The key to the Freebie List is choosing people so attractive, even your spouse can’t argue with it. When my husband picks Beyonce for one of his freebies, I can’t even argue. Hell, Beyonce has probably been on mine at some point. A successful discussion of your Freebies involves agreement on hotness, potential for hotness and the overall hotness of all your five picks as an entity of hotness throbbing around the universe, somewhere over near our “what if” fantasies and Paris Hilton’s music career.

Most of my picks don’t go over so well with my husband, though. For whatever reason, his idea of a really attractive man is not usually the same as mine. I like Jude Law, Adrian Brody and the kid from Carnivale, and he thinks the obvious choice is always Brad Pitt. In fact, one of his most talked about mantras is “The man who can’t admit that Brad Pitt is hot is more likely to have repressed homosexual tendencies than the man who can stand on the rooftop yelling ‘Brad Pitt is a god among men, and I find him attractive!’” Makes sense to me.

Anyway, here’s my Freebie List. Subject to change, of course. The Freebie List is always evolving, people!

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#5: Guy Picciotto (above)
I grew up with this man, going to see $5 Fugazi shows whenever they were within 3 hours of me, and standing as close to the stage as possible so I could catch some sweat. One of the best shows was with one of my best girlfriends from college at the 9:30 club in D.C. We were with some friends and I remember Steve had to go buy earplugs. It was adorable. Did I mention Guy is one of the most enigmatic men on stage of like all time? Well yes. Yes sir.

#4: Clive Owen
I’ll admit, it took a while before he grew on me, but in the last year I’ve come to realize what a hottie he really is. I hated Closer, but everything else I’ve seen him in has been amazing - I’m thinking specifically of Sin City. He was really hot in that. And I still think he should have been the next Bond.

#3: Denzel Washington
I don’t think I need to explain.

#2: Kevin Millar
I’m not sure I’ll ever get over him. He reminds me of a good friend I used to have, and I suppose I’ll always associate them, though the friend ended up being sort of an ass. Now I’m going to have to watch Orioles game (*groan*) all season just to check in on him. There’s just something about the hairy man’s man that gets me. The beard. I hope his back isn’t hairy.

#1: Will Arnett
If you watch Arrested Development, you will immediately get this. If not, you might look at that photo and become confused. Sexiest voice on television, hilarious in character and out, and tall. Very tall. Actually, he kind of looks like an ex boyfriend. Whoa, that just hit me. Now I feel weird. Whatever, watch any episode where he performs his “illusions” to the tune of “Final Countdown”, and you’ll agree. GOB is my boyfriend.

I need a t-shirt.

So, who are your Freebies? I want to hear from the boys, especially. But guys, please don’t pull a Runjit Chandra on me, ok? And thanks for the idea, MB!

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